Comments on: Life Principle #1: Don’t Criticize, Condemn, Complain http://www.uberlumen.com/2009/10/27/parenting/life-principle-1-dont-criticize-condemn-complain/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=life-principle-1-dont-criticize-condemn-complain Discovering Your Abundant Life Thu, 02 Feb 2012 21:42:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ann Kroeker/Not So Fast http://www.uberlumen.com/2009/10/27/parenting/life-principle-1-dont-criticize-condemn-complain//comment-page-1#comment-410 Ann Kroeker/Not So Fast Thu, 29 Oct 2009 00:35:45 +0000 http://www.uberlumen.com/?p=20#comment-410 One time I was in a group and the leader had us read the Carnegie book out loud, chapter by chapter, over several weeks/months. Then we'd discuss and practice the principle in the book. I need to pull it out to review! This reminds me of a story I read one time about utilizing with people the same techniques that trainers use with dolphins--reward the good behavior; ignore behavior you don't want repeated. It was partly humorous and partly serious. In the end, it's what you've written in your post. Focus on the good stuff. Don't bother criticizing. Thanks for bringing up such a simple point that could transform our relationships ... if we could practice the necessary restraint. One time I was in a group and the leader had us read the Carnegie book out loud, chapter by chapter, over several weeks/months. Then we’d discuss and practice the principle in the book. I need to pull it out to review!

This reminds me of a story I read one time about utilizing with people the same techniques that trainers use with dolphins–reward the good behavior; ignore behavior you don’t want repeated. It was partly humorous and partly serious. In the end, it’s what you’ve written in your post. Focus on the good stuff. Don’t bother criticizing.

Thanks for bringing up such a simple point that could transform our relationships … if we could practice the necessary restraint.

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